Peter Stell, counsellor, counselor at Aegis offers counselling, counseling, therapy and psychotherapy for clients, couples or those with family problems in Spalding Lincolnshire
Revd Dr Peter D. Stell - Counselling Consultant
8 Van Gogh Drive, Spalding
Lincolnshire PE11 3HU

Telephone 01775 762546
Mobile 07947 139929


E-mail:
Senior BACP Accredited and Nationally Registered Counsellor and Psychotherapist
Attachment Based Psychotherapist
Member of the Group Analytic Society International
Member of the British Psychological Society

Family, Couple and Child Therapy

If your family is going through a tough time - whether it's from stress, anger, or grief - family therapy can make a difference. Dedicated therapy can help families, couples, children, or members of an extended family learn to communicate better and work through disagreements and conflicts.

I am a senior accredited counsellor and attachment-based psychotherapist with many years of experience working with children, adolescents, couples and families in a number of domestic settings, also fostering, adoption, social services, care agencies and residential care with looked after children.

As an attachment-based psychotherapist I help the family look at their inter-personal relationships and the nature and quality of family attachments. I help the family formulate a better understanding of attachment theory and what constitutes a secure or unsecure base attachment. With this, I engage the family using Systemic Family Therapy which is a recognised talking therapy.

In simple terms, Systemic Therapy because individuals cannot be understood in isolation from one another, but rather as a part of a family, as an emotional unit. Families are systems of inter-connected and inter-dependent individuals, none of whom can be understood in isolation from the family system – hence the term Systemic Family Therapy.

How Can Family, Couple and Child Therapy Help?

Problems experienced in the family, couple or child can affect all areas of family life. You and your loved ones might notice trouble cropping up in the home, at work or school, in college, or in everyday interactions with other people.
When it feels like the issues in your family are getting too big for you to manage - and aren't improving - it may be time to think about giving me a call. I can help you find new ways to manage attachment relationships, struggles, conflicts, and challenges. I can help children and adolescents struggling with their identity, image, self-doubt, frustration, anxiety and anger, and couples at near breaking point.

Some of the things that family therapy can help with:

  • Conflicts between family members
  • Issues with extended family members
  • Domestic violence
  • Substance abuse or addiction
  • Separation or divorce
  • Shared custody of children
  • Caring for a family member with special needs
  • A family member's illness or death in the family
  • A family member's mental illness
  • A family member in prison
  • Infidelity and sexual matters
  • Personal and sexual identity
  • Adopting and fostering children
  • Child abuse
  • Difficulties between siblings
  • Children's behavioural problems
  • Bullying or harassment at school
Peter Stell
Peter Stell
Problems experienced in the family, couple or child can affect all areas of family life
Separation or divorce
family member's mental illness
 

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A family member in prison
Family therapy doesn't have to take a long time

What Happens in Therapy?

The way forward is to talk to everyone involved in the family to help understand what's going on. Here to ask questions about how each person views the problems, when the trouble started, and how the family has been trying to manage things so far. To understand the inter-personal dynamics. To listen to family narrative. To hear the individual's story. The same principles apply to child and couples counselling.

The next step is to work out a dedicated manageable treatment plan. The goal being to improve inter-personal communication, resolve problems, better manage family conflict and not blame anyone for the issues.
It's about a journey of discovery, to find new and better ways to work things out together. Family, couple and child therapy can't always make a problem disappear – just like that - but it can give family members new skills in the form of a tool kit, to get through difficult situations in healthier ways.

Family therapy doesn't have to take a long time. The average is about 12 sessions with meetings lasting around 90 minutes for couples and families. Working with children is different as their concentration levels may not be so great, so sessions lasting up to 50 minutes are quite normal.



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Senior BACP Accredited and Nationally Registered Counsellor and Psychotherapist
Member of the Group Analytic Society International
Member of the British Psychological Society